Imagine back to when you first started your relationship. Wasn't it fantastic feeling so in love? You couldn't get enough of each other and would spend hours talking about your hopes and dreams?
It's so easy to let all of that slip and fall into a routine and find yourselves talking about the mundane things in life. Yes, you have bills to pay and a job to hold down and maybe children to provide for but you will find that these can lead to your relationship feeling duller than as exciting as it once was.
When communication breaks down and you find that you are not talking to each other and don't even know how your partner may be feeling. You need to find ways to open up and make time for each other - talk about how you are feeling and start communicating again.
Marriage Survival Tip #2 It's up to YOU to make this work
You may have hurt your partners feelings without meaning to, apologise and admit your mistake. When you admit to your mistakes it makes the other person feel better and they will then be more receptive to anything else you may have to say.
This is a serious and often underestimated marriage survival tip, as without doing this it can lead to resentment on your partner's part and lead to some serious arguments that can never be truly resolved as they are still thinking about past slights and grievances. Eventually this could lead to a complete breakdown of the relationship.
By deciding to make this work you are being responsible for your own feelings and setting them aside to create an atmosphere that is more caring and sharing
Marriage Survival Tip #3 Try and see your partner's point of view
If you've been in a relationship for some time and not resolved any past arguments you don't see your partner as the person you first fell in love with. The unresolved issues cloud your vision.
Take time out and try to see them as they really are. The person you fell in love with. Look at them with fresh eyes and see how others see them, listen to how others talk about them. Get out the old photo's and go through them as they will remind you of the person you met all of those years ago.
Marriage Survival Tip #4 Recreate the feeling of going out for the first time
Were you nervous? Excited? Couldn't decide what to wear and were counting down the hours until you finished work so you could get home and get ready for your date?
It's easy to re-create those moments. By doing something unexpectedly out of the blue will make your partner remember those first feelings of love. Appreciation always leads to goodwill and harmony. So do something unexpected and you'll see how much more loving your partner is to you. It'll be like old times and you'll have recreated that special moment with a new one.
Marriage Survival Tip #5 Show Your Appreciation
You don't have to spend loads of money to show your appreciation. A simple "You look lovely today" or "Is that new? It makes you look so good" will put a smile on their face and a spring in their step while thinking of you all day.
Marriage Survival Tip #6 Start To Really Listen To Your Partner
This is simpler to do than you might think. You only need to give them all of your attention and let them speak.
You would do this to a stranger so the least you can do is listen intently for a while with the one you love. This is simple to do and the rewards are that your partner will be more appreciative of you.
Marriage Survival Tip #7 Time Changes People
It's natural for people to change as that is what time does to a person. By realising this you will be able to understand that some things will change and nothing ever stands still. If you want things to stay the same forever you could be leading your relationship down the path of a break up.
Marriage Survival Tip #8 Your Partners Not Enemies
If you've had many arguments which are not resolved, any further arguments will be based on the past so that issue being argued about today will be tarnished by that. You must compromise otherwise you will be arguing forever which will be a huge strain on the relationship.
You are partners and as such must work together so if it means that you step back then so be it. These issues really don't matter in the overall picture as both you and your partner are fighting about pride. Let it go and move on.
Marriage Survival Tip #9 You Don't Need To Live In Each Others Pockets
Distance does make the heart grow fonder. By both of you having time out you'll greatly appreciate each other when you are together. Also too much time separated can lead to a strain on the relationship so it's best to find a happy medium.
Go out with your friends once or twice a month. When you get home you'll have some fun stories to tell and you'll be feeling good.
Marriage Survival Tip #10 Express How Much You Love Them
This is maybe one of the most important marriage survival tips. People think that they have shown their partner that they love them through certain acts but you have to say it now and again.
Maybe hug your partner and tell them that you love them and appreciate them being in your life. Try it and see the sparkle in their eyes and their change of mood to the happier feelings.
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